Today, I visited a relative from my father’s side. She has recurring breast cancer.
Nobody knew the exact way to her house. We found out that she had cancer from another relative, who said this aunt’s lips were blackish, really terrible. Father had contacted Aunt but he didn’t ask if she would be at home if we were to visit her!
On that morning we were going to visit Aunt, Father called Aunt again but no one picked up the phone. Uh huh.. Mom tried our source of info and got another relative’s number who lives next door. Nobody picked that up either.
Then the neighbour relative called us back and said Aunt went to the supermarket and would come back shortly. So we continued our way after picking up 1stAunt. My father’s side of the family is quite big.. compared to mom’s.
We got lost there. But the neighbour’s relative found us! :) Lucky!! Actually, we got the wrong address. Even the Taman was wrongly spelt :)
The town house was confusing. There was a fence at the house sides.. Someone told us that the neighbour lives below Aunt, someone said he lives beside Aunt. Arr??
Turned out the entrance for upstairs is on the left side while the ground floor’s (downstairs) entrance is on the right side. The housing plan is like L terbalik. Use your imagination :P
Aunt greeted us at her staircase. Grandmother ogled at another girl at lawn of the other side.
“Who is that? His girl- wife ar?” Grandmother asked Aunt, being herself as a number 8 (8 po = busy body)
“Yeah, already married 2 years. No wedding dinner,” Aunt explained.
“Oh,” grandmother replied.
Brother has a theory that the less events grandmother gets invited to, the less her income.
Aunt explained that she had recurring breast cancer. Earlier she had gone through chemotheraphy and was ok but she found out she had it again! She’ll be going to China for further treatment, “to prolong life. What can I do? Already went to so many hospitals and check. Now want to take the chance. Some people say it’s fake. But the patient who went there and died had already been told by doctor that he/she had 6 months to live only. Wanted to try there and already lived 1 yr plus, then why blame the hospital? If now still have chance, at least .. ” she nodded, “have better chance of survival.”
She’s using her EPF to treat her cancer.
She probably doesn’t have insurance. Sigh.. Had she had insurance for female diseases, she needn’t fork out so much money.
Her fun cheong husband even smoked in the room! Bastard! Such a selfish person. Doesn’t he know smoking – even secondhand smoking – affects cancer?
They have 4 young children. Who is going to take care of them if the mother is really not available (at hospital or *touch wood* …) ?
Aunt asked us to stay for lunch outside but we declined. Grandmother and 1stAunt told her, “Don’t move so much lar, stay at home and rest.” Grandmother does that. Whenever she has leg pain, she lies on the stretcher and doesn’t exercise. Then she would complain back pain. We had told her to move around a bit but she preferred to be the Queen.
Aunt countered, “I must move everyday. If not, the nerve and muscle will become smaller,” she put her forefinger and middle finger together, “then it’s even worse!”
As we left, the adults (ahem, I didn’t even think of it, bad of me!) passed some money to her.
“NO! Don’t want!!!” Aunt pushed the money back to my parents.
“No lar, just for leisure lar. Give your children have fun.”
Finally Aunt took the money but when my grandmother passed money to her, they broke down. “Don’t want, I won’t take from you!”
“Take lar, I have money..”
“Take lar.. aiya,” Grandmother sobbed silently.
Then Aunt leaned on her back and sobbed too. My eyes also watered…
“You no need lar,” my mom told grandmother. Finally, grandmother kept her money.
“Think positive,” mom told her firmly. Father echoed the same.
“Good luck,” I wished her.
“Don’t worry. I will fight!”
That’s the spirit! :D She has more optimisme than the rest of us.