“You don’t - you cannot - tell me if my boyfriend behave badly. If he has another girlfriend, then you can tell me,” someone reasoned with me on which was permissible to disclose.
Isn’t having another girlfriend when he already has you IS behaving badly? It’s certainly not a crime in the eyes of law, is it? Unless you are married.
“Like if he kills and rob someone, then of course you could tell me,” someone continued. “But if he just speak rudely.. ” someone shook someone’s head, “you don’t tell people that!”
Now I knew what was someone’s boundary. It used to be, “I don’t want to know if my boyfriend is seeing another outside!” That’s different from “I don’t want my boyfriend to see another girl outside”, mind you.
“It’s no use actually. When you are in love, you don’t care,” someone deducted from mutual friend’s experience when both of us had told mutual friend about mutual friend’s negative behaviour.
It’s like:
B: Do you think my boyfriend is rude? What do you think of him? Suitable for me? I think he’s very rude sometimes. I wished he were more gentleman. *complain, complain*
A: Eh, true la.. your boyfriend is very rude la. Always talk 4 letter words. *reluctantly said the truth - in A’s eyes*
B: When?A: Neh, [long story, many incidents]..
B: So what?!
A: Ha? *surprised*
B: He’s my boyfriend! Why are you complaining about him hah?! *fists*
A: I’m only telling you because I care about you - *said slowly, carefully but was cut off*
B: You cannot complain about him! Only I can complain about him, OK?! *slam table* He’s not perfect but at least I have a boyfriend! Next time when you have a boyfriend you would know!
So would you let the cat out of the bag? What would you tell?
i won’t tell my personal opinion of the boyfriend unless asked. but things like if he’s fooling around with another girl i will tell whether my friend wants me to or not, because she has to know. if by telling her that ruins out friendship i don’t care. she will know in time if what i did is out of friendship or out of spite. of course i’d make sure i’m 100% certain he’s cheating before telling.
Yes. I will tell. But only if its a close friend.
Cuz sometimes, ppl look thru the rose tinted glasses that they conviniently don’t see the bad habits. Need an outsider to give them to open their eyes.
Maybe sending the evidence to her doorstep anonymously would do? Hehe, the chicken’s way out.