Paragraphs in blockquotes are taken from – NST Comment: Looking at polygyny and polyandry
In 2003, Perlis relaxed its polygamy conditions for Muslims since “many Malaysian men marry for the second time in Thailand and do not register their marriages in Malaysia. Because of this, children born out of these marriages are not registered citizens of Malaysia though they may be living in Malaysia”.
Perlis’ action was purportedly to “protect children born out of the second marriage”.
So, Perlis just wanted to make their government staffs lives easier – they didn’t have/want to handle investigation and take further course of action to those involved. To protect the innocent children was so noble.
But not smart. It just allowed more men to have 2nd or more wives with the ‘out of wedlock’ children as excuses.
In the first place, why didn’t Perlis tackle the unregistered 2nd (or more) marriages in Thailand by treating the root cause? Like punishment for the person who take a 2nd wife (or more) without 1st wife’s approval and do not register their marriages in Malaysia? How about education to every level of the society – poor, rich, urban, rural, male, female, child, adult about marriages? Or have a strict marriage registration system?
“Nah, that would take too long and too much effort. We’d rather use our energy to have sex – with several wives hehe,” I think that would be the reply.
the state or practice of having more than one wife or female mate at a time
the state or practice of having more than one husband or male mate at one time
marriage in which a spouse of either sex may have more than one mate at the same time
Why are Malaysians using the term polygamy in Islam? It’s not accurate when only Muslim males are allowed to have more than 1 wife! Since when does the law allows women to have more than 1 wife, Muslim or not? That’s SO NOT RIGHT!
In Malaysia, references to polygamy only mean polygyny as polyandry is prohibited under Islamic law.
Yet it could be instructive to investigate why polyandry is prohibited whereas polygyny is permissible.
An Egyptian scholar, Dr Jamal Badawi, offered this explanation: “The rules and regulations relating to marriage and polygamy were drawn to preserve family and lineage… to assure the recognition of the right lineage of people and their children, by which the social kinship and social network is kept sound and stable.
“In the case of polygamy, the father of a child is always known and therefore the lineage is easily determined. As for the case of polyandry, the father is not necessarily obvious and therefore the lineage of a child is also obscured.”
You’ve got to be kidding me, Dr. A baby comes from the mother’s womb. The mother is always known, not the father. *shake head* Simple biology. If Egyptian scholar, Dr Jamal Badawi reasoned that the the lineage follows the male because of health reasons (some genes are more active in males like colour blind), then at least it’s logical.
Another scholar, Dr Zakir Naik… gave other startling reasons for prohibiting polyandry: “Man is more polygamous by nature when compared with a woman,” he claimed.
“Biologically, it is easier for a man to perform his duties as a husband despite having several wives.
“A woman, in a similar position, having several husbands, will not find it possible to perform her duties as a wife. A woman undergoes several psychological and behavioural changes due to different phases of the menstrual cycle.”
The scholar also claimed that a woman who has more than one husband will have several sexual partners at the same time and therefore “has a high chance of acquiring venereal or sexually transmitted diseases, which can also be transmitted back to her husband even if all of them have no extramarital sex.
“This is not the case in a man having more than one wife, and none of them having extramarital sex”.
You mean men are more dick itchy and likely to stray biologically compared to women? His duties as a husband… I’m guessing he means sex, s-e-x and s.e.x. LOL, because a woman has menstrual cycle, there are several days where she cannot satisfy so many husbands? Has he ever heard of sex during menstrual cycle? A husband or wife is not only about sex. Emotional support counts too.
Wow. Men who have more than 1 wives don’t spread their transmitted diseases to their wives! Where did they (scholars and diseases) come from? Which school did the scholars go and what research did they based their opinion on?
At least the diseases do not care who they are transmitted to. Can’t say the same for these scholars.
Kudos to Datuk Ranita Hussein for writing that. Thank God NST didn’t stop this comment (Datuk/Dato’s?) from being published.